It’s happening: Your kiddo is leaving the land of preschool and heading into the big new world of elementary school. How will he or she survive it without being overwhelmed? How will you survive it as a parent?
Common elementary school topics to help guide you along the way:
Fostering independence in your child
There is a big growth period during the elementary years. This is an ideal time to let your child become more independent. This can sometimes be tougher on the parent than the child; however, in the long run, it is better to let your child start to make some decisions on her own.
Let your child make mistakes. Dealing with consequences helps children see that things will be okay and that little things are not the end of the world. If your child forgets to return a homework paper to school, don’t bring it to them. Your child will learn to bring it next time. If your child wants to choose what they wear, let them be themselves (within reason). The earlier you embrace the fact that your child can make decisions and turn out just fine, the earlier your child will have confidence to make these decisions on her own.
PTO, classroom parent, school carnival, fundraisers, and more! What are you supposed to do to help during the elementary school years? The answer: do what you can and don’t feel guilty if you can’t. There are parents who are energized by leading the PTO and planning class parties, and there are those who do not have the time or the energy. Both parents are doing what they can. Do not feel obligated to do everything (or anything.)
That being said, a little bit can go a long way. Maybe you don’t want to plan every party, but you have time to volunteer at the Halloween party. Perfect. Perhaps you have a morning off from work to help out at the book fair. Great. And if you can’t manage to volunteer, you can offer to send in some cups or plates to help out.
It’s natural for children (and parents) to feel a little nervous throughout elementary school. There are big changes such as all-day schooling, riding the bus, eating lunch at school, and getting used to a new building. To help calm some of the nervous energy, visit the school and the teacher each year before the first day of school. Talk about the positive things to come each year like being able to buy lunch and have recess. Find a buddy in class or on the bus to invite to a play date so your child can be familiar with at least one other classmate.
As a parent, we need to make sure we don’t transfer our nervous energy to our kids. When you say good-bye, give a hug and a wave, and be strong as they board the bus. Your confidence will inspire confidence in your little one. You can take a deep breath and know that you are helping your child gain confidence in himself.
Dealing with elementary school homework
Homework is an added stress to many families, but it doesn’t have to be. Make a plan with your child for how you are going to get homework done each night. Choose the time and place for homework. Clear the area of distractions, and ask for help if needed. Teachers are willing to help you if your child is struggling with homework. You can also go online to find practice sites and video tutorials. Another suggestion is to work with your child to develop a long-term plan for bigger assignments. Do a little bit each day rather than wait for the last minute. This will make the entire homework situation much calmer for everyone.